Relationships: Secrets Of Happy Couples
Although more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce, many couples defy these odds and maintain lasting, healthy relationships. What makes these relationships go "right?" Psychologist Florence Kaslow offers the following:
- Healthy couples see themselves as strong individuals, but they find that being a couple makes them happier. They believe that by acting together they are stronger than they would be as separate individuals.
- They share power. Sometimes one partner takes charge, and sometimes the other partner, depending upon whom is more suited for the situation.
- They are not afraid to quarrel because they have the confidence that their relationship can survive occasional outbursts.
- They try to take a positive attitude toward conflicts. When interests diverge or clash, they negotiate a solution that benefits the couple, without taking the attitude that one person is giving up something for the sake of the other.
- They accept the fact that there will be some areas of disagreement, and they try to live with these differences.
- They give each other some independence and privacy, allowing each other to have outside friendships and activities without jealousy.
- They take interest in each other's jobs and activities.
- One person does not fear that the other will change. In fact, they view personal change as good for the relationship because it keeps things interesting.
- Their personal relationship is independent of their relationships to their parents and their children. They do not allow their feelings for other family members to govern their personal relationship.
- They share all emotions, sorrow as well as happiness.
- They don't assume that life has to be rosy all the time.
- Closeness has its limits: They do not seek to become exactly alike, avoiding the urge to become "Siamese twins joined at the heart," in Kaslow's words.
Employee Assistance Program Services
The Broward County Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is available to all Broward County Government employees and their families to assist with most personal problems affecting the quality of life at home or on the job at no charge. Participation in the program is voluntary and completely confidential. Licensed professionals can assist you with:
- Family problems
- Work conflicts
- Grief and loss
- Financial problems
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